Ralph’s Reviews: When I’ve Had to Punch Someone

In general I am a laid back guy. I am kind of quiet and typically not confrontational. However, if I am confronted and feel disrespected I don’t usually respond very well. My mouth gets the better of me more times than not. A lot of times when I’m feeling attacked, my initial instinct is to attack back. Although, that is not always the case. I will say that over the years I have worked on this and improved in ways to be less confrontational, but it is clear to me that I am still a work in progress.

I tend to believe that nearly everyone has been pushed to their breaking point at one point or another in their life. And that nearly everyone has gotten so ticked off that they have literally come to blows with someone.

What I am about to share with you in this review is an instance from my youth regarding a situation where a classmate confronted me and challenged me to punch them.

It started out as a normal day in junior high. I walked into the classroom and took my seat. Only this day the kid sitting behind me decided to test his luck. Class had not yet started and the teacher was out in the hallway. The class began to fill up with other classmates. The kid sitting behind me began saying some provocative things trying to get me riled up. Initially nothing worked. I was able to maintain my composure and shake off what was being said. Well, finally he hit a nerve. He started saying some derogatory things about some of my family. I told him to stop and he challenged me to punch him. By this point, I had reached my boiling point and I punched him. The Gist of what he said was that my punch was weak. Claiming that the punch was nothing and it was not impact-full enough. Instantly I punched him again. This time my punch must have really gotten him. I must have connected pretty good because the next thing I knew he curled up. My rage was overflowing and I continued to consistently punch him. The teacher must have heard all the commotion and put an end to the confrontation. Afterwards to my surprise the referral sent to the principal stated the amount of punches I threw was double the amount that I thought it was. As I was throwing the punches, in my mind it was just a few. However, from what I heard from others I later learned it was twice as many punches than I had thought. I guess I was just surprised because it was out of character for me and I did not realize how enraged I was at the time. Just to clarify, this was not a bullying incident. It was just someone that was testing me to see if they could get a reaction out of me and I think he got more than he bargained for.

As I reflect on that day, I remember there certainly was a lot of rage that I felt. I did not go looking for it, the rage was brought upon me by that classmate. I felt some satisfaction afterwards knowing that I did indeed stand up for myself. I did what was right for this particular situation.

If it happened again today I would like to think that I Would just walk away. I am not someone looking to go around punching people. My emotions get identified verbally. Only on a very rare occasion would I consider getting physically violent with someone. Truthfully, I suppress when I am annoyed. I won’t even call it angry because a lot of times I can be upset with someone and within 5 minutes I am over it and ready to move on. To sum up, I am capable of throwing a punch if it is absolutely necessary as a last resort, but I generally keep it verbal as a rant, cool off, and move on. Keeping it a verbal confrontation is how I would like to keep it every time. Confrontations should not lead to physical violence. You can get your point across by verbal communication most of the time. If verbal communication is not being received the best thing to do is just walk away.